The secret of making dreams come true can be summarized in four C’s. They are Curiosity, Confidence, Courage, and Constancy; and the greatest of these is CONFIDENCE.Walt Disney
Most dreams can come true only if you take actions
I was a dreamer in most of my life. From a little one dancing and singing alone while thinking of my comic characters, to a young lady who playing dress up in her room for hours. In my mind, I was saving all the wishes for myself. I didn’t dare to believe that one day I could feel empowered and confident like my favorite Sailor Moon or I could own something like a business. I was too shy to vision me in that picture.
Years went by, I became a person who made some decisions that I didn’t dream of.
It only took one right moment for me to scratch my entire big plan for my “future” and redo it all over. I was 24 years old at that point. No more getting marriage or moving abroad to get a master in finance, but instead, I stayed home and was trying to figure myself out, starting from Square One. My personal life turned up side down, you can imagine, I was closed off and so isolated. However, inside, I was coming closer to one person, who was Me. I created all these “troubles” for me on purpose. I wanted to know who I was and who I wanted to become. I didn’t want to waste one more day to answer those questions that I avoided most of my time before. I might have hurt people from that sudden move, I might have done damages, but I also could have made more serious disasters if I didn’t do that one action.
10 years went by, I’m at a very similar position, but this time (luckily) I don’t have to press a pause or stop button in my life. I am in control. I am taking my time and still moving at the pace I’m proud of.
The story of my confidence wasn’t written overnight. I spent those 10 years on it. I learned on the way of moving from Vietnam to Mozambique, I had my first culture shock, then I gained some lessons on self-respect and pride. I didn’t have time to rest on my long journey, I already found myself back in Asia, but this time in Lao, and I earned a big badge of crisis management skills and said hello to my depression friend. After that time, I thought to myself, I could take a leap year to have a break and to pursue something like becoming a bartender in Phuket, you know, out of all the things I wanted to do. Then I found something else planned for me instead.
Becoming a mom with depression in a complete new place (again) was not my original plan. That was the first time I couldn’t turn my “plan” off. I went with it with so much self-doubt and fears, more than any other times in my 30 years on Earth.
Looking back, that was like the introduction of my book. My life was refreshed, uhm, actually, it was renovated since then.
Design my destiny
Most people know me as an international educator.
I remember all the first moments of my teaching career, for sure, because I turned my life upside down for this. I climbed up the ladder from the ground, I volunteered to work for free to get some initial experience and approvals, I attended intense trainings to confirm to myself that I was a good fit, I was writing my papers and working at the same time taking care of my sick husband, then, I finished my Master while battling with depression and holding a baby in my arms. I know what it costs to pursue something.
And I would do it again if I had to do so.
It’s satisfying to do what I love.
And this time, I found another love.
I pursue it, of course.
I guess what’s different this time is that I learn to live with a more balanced mental health. I’m trained to work with it and I know how to seek for helps. I use all of the practices from my coaching mentors, not only to apply in my teaching, but also for my own sanity. I live with it.
One surprise came along was that I finally could combine my passion of styling and fashion with my skills of coaching and Mindfulness. I guess this is it. I found my thing. Can I say I designed my path?
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